Personal Philosophy

1) Muse’s directive: Invent an opposite. What is the opposite of a kiss? What is the opposite of green? What is the opposite of a train?…Use both the thing and its opposite in a story…”

The opposite of love is not hate. In fact, the more I deal in the realm of romance, the more I realize that those two entities are just two sides of the same coin. The true opposite of love is  indifference.

Love and hate both consume your energy, dogging your thoughts constantly. When you love someone, you want to see them everywhere. When you hate someone, you dread seeing them anywhere. When you love someone, your spirit feels called to be the best of itself so you try to do what’s right.  When you hate someone you feel drawn toward resentment, displaying the best of yourself in the cleverest, most vengeful schemes. Both love and hate keep you focussed on the object of the emotion.

Indifference however draws nothing from your energy. You may not even realize the person’s existence enough for the verb that describes your actions to be “neglect”.

I guess that’s why I feel moved to love, and only love, in the thousands of possible ways a girl can. Hate is an all-consuming negative. In hate I do not recognize myself. Likewise, wIth indifference, I truly wrong the people I interface with, thus I am faced with a version of me that is alien and repugnant.

There is only one option for me–to love.

The existence of choice is a fallacy.

And the results are agonizing. Love calls for you to be truly vulnerable and accepting of the possibilities. Sometimes you find yourself watching imminent disaster crest on the horizon, and your only option is to endure. Often, you find yourself clinging desperately in these struggles to the knowledge that at least you are being true to yourself. At least you are you. Everything else is being ripped away in the tempest of disillusionment, but there she is.

At least she can say she is she.

2) My current word count for my novel is: 24,178 / 30,000.

3) Muse’s next directive: “A character arrives at work to find her chair missing. What happened to it?”

1 thought on “Personal Philosophy

  1. Victor F.

    Insightful post, but I believe that it misses the intent of the prompt. Love is already on a continuum of personal interaction, either ranging from hate to love or indifference to affirmation/recognition. It seems that the point of the prompt is to define the opposite of something tangible or something seemingly non-polar. Perhaps kiss/scowl, green/brown (live/dead plants), train/ATV (on track/off track). Strictly speaking, the prompt was followed, but the writing exercise seemed to desire the practice of your descriptive writing skills. Could you provide an example in a comment response possibly?

    In terms of content, you’ve well defined why you choose not to hate, that it’s an “all-consuming negative” and that you “do not recognize” yourself. Well stated. For love, you talk about the “thousands of possible ways a girl can”. This statement is vague (What are the thousands of ways?) and doesn’t provide a reason to choose love over hate. Readers can assume the opposite of the “all-consuming negative”, an all-consuming positive, but you’ve described love/hate not as opposites, so the reader is left wondering the undefined reasons for love. The “energy” aspects seem to be referenced from the preceding paragraph, but the reader can’t be sure.

    By saying “the ways a girl can” it seems that you are implying that love is different for girls and boys. I don’t agree or disagree, but was that the intention?

    Philosphically, the passage is a well thought out perception of emotional/interpersonal opposites. The perspective describes the emotion and angst clearly. The only philosophical issue I see with the passage is “The existence of choice is a fallacy”. You’ve already described that while in love “your spirit feels called to be the best of itself so you try to do what’s right”. The actual choice remains within the actions you take, not necessarily within the feelings you possess. People are judged/evaluated by behaviors and not by intent.

    There is clear improvement in your descriptive style over the course of the previous entries of the blog. In choosing to write about love, you’ve chosen a topic rife for potential for broad, sweeping statements. Be careful about how you address the prompts. Try for writing styles that are unfamiliar and difficult to you. The “Trouble Me” passage was the best one that you’ve written so far.


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